How to Love Someone Perfect

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Begin by spending time in one corner and determine the start of your fascination. Then comes curiosity, the occasional sighs, and then that moment when you realized, they had become a part of your daily pondering.
Trouble. Trouble. You're hooked and you just do not know how to let them go. 

Then you self-contradict your development. You down play the fleeting butterflies in your stomach as something bad you ate for lunch today or the dread of having to speak to them and not knowing what to say at all. You shrug and avoid anything that reminds you of them but find yourself thinking of them when your head hits the pillow. Goner.

In as much as you do not want to admit, you start to zero in their possible faults and flaws. They might have different interests than you have. They hand out with weird company or they listen to your most hated band. And then, in time, you began changing your preferences. Over time, they have converted you into loving "The Cure" song you always thought to make no sense actually.

Your friends find your ramblings strange. They have to figure out your metaphors as something almost always related to that someone. You start to receive intervention by concerned best of friends due to your insistent mantra that everything you are saying is normal and is only expected.

Your mom hides her intent to ask actual facts about this someone in fear of confirming her fear of you being haunted by an imaginary friend in your age. She tells you to go out more often and hang out with your guy pals just to know if they can fish something out of you. Of course, the beer drinking buddies you have only gets drunk and you only grin in hiding your someone perfect.

And then, one day, you get sad for no apparent reason. You now begin to see that there is no point in having these strange feelings. You know you deserve the right to love in the right and sane way. You get tired of looking for the checklist you have right from the very beginning. Your check list does not suit anyone at all no matter how perfect they might seem. 

How to love someone perfect? You just don't. They only exist in dreams.

But how can you find someone to love in imperfection, quite surprising easy and non-fictional. This phenomenon happens more often than not. 

And you know what, when you open your eyes to that someone imperfect and realize they are all that you have ever needed, you truly have loved perfectly. You begin to see happiness and possibilities as something real and not ideal. You become a better person by finding a someone that can be all accepting (well not all) of who you are as you learn to appreciate the differences in between. 

You can get tired of perfection one day. But finding the reason for the imperfections to be lovable - you can not count the ways. You will always try to be understanding and open. You try to be more relevant and creative. And as you strive to become an accepting mate, your perfection never ends. 

Anyone's Guide to Embarrassing Situations or Life's Odd Curveballs

Ever been in one? Of course, you have - silly question.
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Come on, who never had the awkward moments in their lives? It can be bumping with an ex who happens to have moved on with a gorgeous beauty by his side while you are wearing your sleepwear in the grocery aisle. Or you happen to bring your friends into a bar that ended up having jukebox band and DOMs loitering about the boisterous and dark place while your eardrums are having tears for the super blasting sound systems. Or simply put, life just caught you with your pants down unaware! Now, boys, don't think this is going to be about the wild nights we all used to have. Wink wink. 

1. Laugh out loud. Who would dare say something ruined your disposition when you seem to laugh so hard you fall off your chair? Unless some people think you are the lunatic in your group, just laugh. Remember, laughing at yourself could only mean you have enough high self esteem to forgive your foolishness or mistakes. If you think the situation is funny, people would make it a small of a deal and laugh with you instead of putting fingers on you. Laughing expels the negativity in you, brightens up the company, and makes any bad situation into comedy. Isn't it a cure all at this point?

2. Find a quick and diplomatic solution. When you are in an awkward situation, of course you cannot stump your foot and throw tantrums like a two year old. Unless you are aged two and below, you as a mature individual can find a solution to the situation that is making you feel uncomfortable. If you meet the ex, then smile sweetly and tell them "Hi" in your pajamas. You know you are not dress like "I-have-moved-on-about-you" so just remain congenial and walk out of the scene with as much grace as you can mutter. Good manners always kills bad reviews, even in relationships. And just think what interesting follow up conversation the ex has to share with his current beau. Classic.

3. Make the best of what you have. Of course, between being trapped in a dreary place and spending time with friends, find a compromise. You can just transfer to the nearest nice place or decide to have fun. Pull out a few of your lame jokes and make fun of yourself, heck, make fun on your friends. This can divert the lingering situation out of everyone's minds.

4. Enjoy the moments. Come on, you really did not think about this idea? Embarrassing situations are far and in between so enjoy them while they last. I think being able to enjoy everything in your life is key not to be embarrassed at all. Moments like those are well worth the story for the grand kids. They might not imagine it, but the way you will tell them can indeed be enought to make them think their grandfolk must have been a funny person to be around.   

You can choose to find humor with yourself or refuse to get over the situation entirely - is all up to you. But as it has proven, a good laugh and a pat on your back are the best way out for the embarrassing situation that you encounter anytime at any place. Laughing is contagious virus but its a good contamination to spread. We need more viruses like that instead.