Anyone's Guide to Embarrassing Situations or Life's Odd Curveballs

Ever been in one? Of course, you have - silly question.
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Come on, who never had the awkward moments in their lives? It can be bumping with an ex who happens to have moved on with a gorgeous beauty by his side while you are wearing your sleepwear in the grocery aisle. Or you happen to bring your friends into a bar that ended up having jukebox band and DOMs loitering about the boisterous and dark place while your eardrums are having tears for the super blasting sound systems. Or simply put, life just caught you with your pants down unaware! Now, boys, don't think this is going to be about the wild nights we all used to have. Wink wink. 

1. Laugh out loud. Who would dare say something ruined your disposition when you seem to laugh so hard you fall off your chair? Unless some people think you are the lunatic in your group, just laugh. Remember, laughing at yourself could only mean you have enough high self esteem to forgive your foolishness or mistakes. If you think the situation is funny, people would make it a small of a deal and laugh with you instead of putting fingers on you. Laughing expels the negativity in you, brightens up the company, and makes any bad situation into comedy. Isn't it a cure all at this point?

2. Find a quick and diplomatic solution. When you are in an awkward situation, of course you cannot stump your foot and throw tantrums like a two year old. Unless you are aged two and below, you as a mature individual can find a solution to the situation that is making you feel uncomfortable. If you meet the ex, then smile sweetly and tell them "Hi" in your pajamas. You know you are not dress like "I-have-moved-on-about-you" so just remain congenial and walk out of the scene with as much grace as you can mutter. Good manners always kills bad reviews, even in relationships. And just think what interesting follow up conversation the ex has to share with his current beau. Classic.

3. Make the best of what you have. Of course, between being trapped in a dreary place and spending time with friends, find a compromise. You can just transfer to the nearest nice place or decide to have fun. Pull out a few of your lame jokes and make fun of yourself, heck, make fun on your friends. This can divert the lingering situation out of everyone's minds.

4. Enjoy the moments. Come on, you really did not think about this idea? Embarrassing situations are far and in between so enjoy them while they last. I think being able to enjoy everything in your life is key not to be embarrassed at all. Moments like those are well worth the story for the grand kids. They might not imagine it, but the way you will tell them can indeed be enought to make them think their grandfolk must have been a funny person to be around.   

You can choose to find humor with yourself or refuse to get over the situation entirely - is all up to you. But as it has proven, a good laugh and a pat on your back are the best way out for the embarrassing situation that you encounter anytime at any place. Laughing is contagious virus but its a good contamination to spread. We need more viruses like that instead. 

“I Am In Love and I am Terrified” Syndrome Cure – Be Still! (A Message to My Scho’99 sisters)

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"Flight mode..."
The trouble with love when it comes to intellectuals (like most of us, do not deny it duh!) is that it needs reason or logic to become real. In our lives, things were often achieved and successful using the mind, almost disregarding intuition or the whispers of the heart. It leads us all into thinking that love is a mental thing and can be handled with aplomb amidst the raging emotions in us. What we fail to remember is that love in itself is a force to be reckon with. No matter how we can say why we love a person – we will never break the mystery of this force.

Life is on a routine for most of us today but then, suddenly kaboom! Out of the blue, we encounter such irrational intangible thing called love. The person we never noticed suddenly becomes the recipient of all the odd stirrings in us (cri cri cri). We, of course, as rational individuals try to deny the fact that a sudden realization took place. In no frontiers, reason, or name we felt it – love. Most of us are romantics, no matter how try we approach love in a scientific manner.

Books and more books have tried to explain the many plateaus and philosophies of love. They do echo plausible and rational whys and hows, even the whos. Others try to explain love as genetically based and some make it more appealing by having faculties of the mind being used to influence if not manipulate love and all its cousins of desire, passion, and commitment.

Its a never ending battle between mind and heart when it comes to caring about someone. We should not give up on love as being a free radical – it moves the most impossible to possible. If people can just let it be and making it something needlessly rationalized, maybe the world can be a better place. Miracles are built on love. It is the one thing that manifests our souls in this material world. So be still, think of all the little things in your life that makes you fee l love. Trust me, the list you conjured in your mind will never fail to make you feel better. Love is just love. No rules, no walls, no bridges. Let it allow to transform and challenge who you are. You always come out better or changed, that is well-assured.

So be it, romantic or not, be grateful it always find a place in your life. It could be how your Mom tell you to always carry an umbrella even if it does not seem to rain. How your pet puppy licks up your face when you get home. Maybe the way your siblings cheerfully pester you once in a while. Or maybe the sound of the laugh of old friends when you are having the same conversations for the nth time in the coffee shop. Or simply, the way you set time aside for yourself to enjoy your own simple little pleasures in your life. That is love.

We always would want to strive to have that talent of “prismic perception” – the ability to make colors in your point of view. We must think this ability comes hand in hand in the cure of running away from love (oh yes, we do that and a lot!). So ease the unwarranted vulnerability and revel in the strength to take up its challenges. Test your mettle and how far you can go.

Love makes us human, after all (even if we are self-proclaimed goddesses haha!). So learn to never fear it. Look it in the eyes and welcome it. So live, laugh, and love MORE!

P.S.
Note to self. Date the next guy who asks you out! Make time for it and throw the I-am-busy lame excuses. Be still and be in love and terrified at the same time!

A Man Good Enough For Me (and My Boyz)

written 05.26.2010, discussed 07.20.2010 - Photo credit - From the Web

Growing up with a lot of boys can be quite an experience. You tend to see the horrors and the humanity of the male society. But of course, you tend to get jaded about the sane population of the opposite sex, but somehow a faith in you grows that men are not that heartless as most women would say.

I am grateful having a bunch of guys who has been a part of my life since college years. I was in an all-girls high school so their friendship made up the balancing male force in my thinking. I admit I was a self-confessed feminist, but spending good and bad times with the guys I realized friendship does not even draw lines between the sexes. Oh yes, I do like to overpower men once in a while, but not to prove I belong to the better sex but because of my competitive nature. I learned to balance the female and male characteristics I have had. I became a better person in all. Somehow, being friends with the guys I learned to become a better friend in itself. 

And now that I am reaching the stage of choosing a life partner, the guys naturally get edgy. I mean, being likened to a little sister to them, they challenge any possible suitor I came across. In college, I always felt being protected by an invisible cocoon by their protective instinct. It felt really safe from the jerks of their kind.

But as I grow older, I know I must leave that cocoon soon. I must find someone to spend the rest of my life with. The one guy that I will devote most of my time to and would most likely meet the bunch of guys I dearly cherish. Whether they approve of him or not, and even if they test him in some way, I know my guys would respect my choice in time.

It will take time, definitely. I mean, they were always the guys on my priority list. But when this special guy will enter the scene, I know they will have to settle for second place. And I know there will be some resentment muttered but they will eventually accept that. Lesser party time, lesser visibility in our beer drinking nights, and definitely no more green jokes (at least not when my guy is around).

Guys are guys anyway and they will see my point when they know I have truly fallen in love. Men are generally accepting by the course of things but almost without any resistance. They will perhaps bully the poor guy to embarrassment and exchange a few punches but I know they will learn to love the guy I love. 

And it would not suprise me that they had always said bad things about the guy I am crushing on. They would never seem to see a man good enough for me. But in fact, they will - someday. Maybe because they see me to be too good to be true to ever find a partner fit enough to handle me. It is hard to understand how I understand men, so it is daunting to think that I do understand men and yet decided to commit to one in the end. 

Maybe one day, I will be wiping my tears from laughing so hard seeing my guy comfortably hanging out with my guy bunch. So its not my fault that I do think I need a guy who can get along with my guys. Someone who could understand that they are a part of my life as he is without any insecurity. 

I know someone good enough will eventually claim me and I know my guys would appreciate letting them know. I will of course, over a bottle of ice cold beer and with an attitude of acceptance. Or we could really get down to a poker game – whoever wins can do anything he wants. Betcha I win this game.

But really, in the end, I know they will understand my choice to stand beside a man for the rest of my life. (Kampai WBZ! Hang-over from last night! hehe)