Boys Do Fall In Love (They Are Better Romantics Than Us Women)

written by BEV 09.11.2010 Photo credit - Jsevilla.tumblr.com

Boys, boys ,boys. They might give you a few words of advice when it comes to love, but they almost always hit the right target and you know what they say to you is no-none sense. When they sniff something wrong with your current beau, they will tell it to your face. To some this might sound territorial but to those who happen to grow up with the boys, you know they only mean you well when they say your boyfriend is a total jerk. And eight out of ten cases, they happen to be right.

Female pals might baby you with the soft words and non-direct approach in doing the right things (exceptions apply of course like my Scho'99 sisters) when it comes to your love life. And we cannot blame women for putting it lightly because they do not want to add to the hurt or doubts you might be having.  To all self-confessed feminists, this might come as a disappointment to your quest for superiority in the emotional issues in life, but let us face it, men and women are equal in the grounds of love.

But what do happen when boys do fall in love? Strange circumstances happen, and they often surprise you with their originality.

Top Four Reasons Why Men Are More Romantic

1. Their imagination knows no borders.
We women, rely too much in movies and multi-media in envisioning our romantic ideals. Guys happen to rely in their imagination (ahem, of course all things considered here) and they can really get creative when they fall in love. Some of the most romantic stories I gathered are from guys maybe because in our society they have all the right to initiate get-the-girl-moves. And with this subconsciously influencing all the creative juices they have, what could possibly equal their originality and the resources they can use to sweep women on their feet? If you think candle lit dinner is romantic just imagine a parachute ride with picnic basket over the weekend could only be orchestrated by a man. 

But to the jerks and playboys, they just know how to use this to charm off women's wits - so be wary of these losers. But as mentioned, love is fair game so just be careful you can handle these charmers and play the snake in return. (^_^)

2. They equate love to longing to the point of slavery...
Have you seen this love bug causing havoc to men? Its like they caught something viral in the Amazon jungle and is now helplessly addicted to the thoughts of one woman - wanting to be her slave in so many ways. Studies nor research has quite figure out the hormones that cause this blind devotion of men to their current piece of work so I pity them at this stage. Really, bitches do best at this stage knowing how to manipulate these poor males into submission. But remember ladies, what comes around goes around. So, yes they can become mindless zombies to your bidding, but remain true and kind to these pitiful species, will you? But it does not mean you do not have to enjoy all the attention - go ahead bathe in it - but make sure you know what you are leading the both of you into. Be honest, be frank, and cut him loose if you see no future with the guy. But for pete's sake, go out and have a date, enjoy his company and decide from there.

3. Men act more than say much.
Maybe its how the genetic make up of the X and Y chromosomes were structured to have left 2,000 said words for the male in a day while giving the females about 6,000 spoken words in twelve hours. Could you just imagine the lapse there? 

So men find it more hard to express their feelings, that is a given. Women tend to connect things easily because they do not have the compartmentalizing ability of men and it is easy getting emotional because of that. On the other hand, men categorize things accordingly - work, family, friends, private time, women - separately - and so they have a harder time to cope with surging feelings. They might just wake up one day feeling enamored just by how much you can rouse a certain emotion in them even without trying anything. This comes to them as very overwhelming and so they tend to shut up about it because they do not know what or how to say it. 

And so looking at number three, they tend to show it in actions not in words. But there are just some guys who can really be d*ckheads and confuse women with their uncertainty too. Stay clear of these confused souls and you'll do just fine. Real men who truly love does not have a problem in defining with you the gray areas in a relationship. 

As for the smooth talkers, well, they can also use this to lure women but there is much more faith in women picking out the well-versed flirt from the real and spoken real man's words. 

4. They REALLY get inspired enough to change.
There might be a wrong notion about women being more of the open book kind. Women changes moods as often as she changes her clothes and so the disparity of making profound changes varies in the extremes. But for men, they can really be mum about the changes they are having when they fall in love. Boys tend to please their women of interest so much they initiate overnight miracles in themselves. You can notice your boy-friends passing the next shot of beer during a night out just because his current interest said he drinks too much. 
Well, if that is not miracle enough for you, you have so much to learn about the intimate almost unbreakable relationship between a boy and his bottle of beer. 

But hold on to your training manuals, ladies. When you do decide to commit with this guy who is crazy for you, do not be such a mother. Accept his weaknesses but continue believing in his potential to change. Changes in him does not mean entirely because of you, get real. He changed because he needed to and your place belongs to the inspiration only. He did most of the work himself. Keep that in mind when you are going steady because he would probably remain like himself most of the time and his attempts to change might be successful or not. Simply put, inspire the man, do not expect him to change only because of you.

So if you are currently dating a guy who is swooning because of your mere presence, be grateful. Appreciate this person because he appreciates you. Just remember, they are better romantics really, so do not put everything else in a script. Do not expect anything because in a boy's mind and with his feelings for you, things might go beyond, over, below your expectations. Which is actually good, because in the end, boys do fall in love for real.