A List of 31 Quick Ponderings

                                      

 

This is a post for some 31 random thoughts that a year of life can make anyone think about. Quick to the point, blunt, and hopefully relatable to the other 30 something out there.

1. Never plan too much to end up in disappointment.

2. Cry alone for no reason. You need no reason at all to cry at times and be okay with it.

3. Always do good, if possible, better work than you did yesterday.

4. Strive to do something different and interesting at least once a month. 

5. Taking a walk at least every other day can help you think.

6. Keep yourself guessing on what interests you.

7. A routine can help you get through drudgery but never let it stop you for some fun.

8. You get to predict what can people do or say, but the way they think about you is not your damn problem. 

9. Find a pair of good non-judging ears and strive to return the favor each time.

10. Immerse yourself in your local culture. 

11. Do some brain puzzles once in a while.

12. Appreciate the small indulgence you can have.

13. Drink a bottle of beer or a glass of red wine when you have a bad day before going to sleep.

14. Relish being a wallflower at parties. It is so fun to just watch people and surprise them with insights.

15. Watching movies is truly an escape.

16. Do more work, do little gossip, do better than expected. Watch how good you get at what you are doing.

17. Keep adding something in your bucket list. 

18. Create your own self traditions that you keep secret.

19. People can hurt you but seek to find a reason to smile and not be hard on yourself.

20. Your expectations can be attainable as long as you do not listen to naysayers.

21. Travel. Always find time to be in a different place, get lost, and find who you are at the end.

22. It is good to let other people know how you appreciate their help often.

23. Never bite your tongue when someone insults your mom.

24. Let the unexpected unfold and let go of control.

25. Find your own therapy. Be it writing, listening to music, or extreme sports. 

26. Seek to understand the two sides of the coins.

27. Learn that people can be understood by their behavior, less than their intentions or words.

28. Admire someone you want to become one day.

29. Silence with others and yourself is healthy. Shutting your brain can be a release.

30. Trust is essential, especially in yourself.

31. Define your own happiness and purpose in the service of others. Make a difference with your life.

Get Lost to Get Found

Getting lost in yourself is a good thing.
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You do not choose to lose a part of yourself. It can be the tedious drudgery of a life that is not enriching you. It can be the unfulfilled childhood dream that you have had when you were a little kid that never forgives you for getting forgotten. It can be the sense of loss after a broken part of yourself. A broken relationship with a lover, a friend, or a family member that keeps you up at night.

But sometimes, it takes only an acknowledgement that when you feel lost, it is usually because of a broken relationship with your real self. You lose yourself in all the needs to be done instead of what you want to do.

So when these times come to you, it is a good idea to wander about. Literally by going places by yourself or just doing something that you can enjoy on your own. You might be more loving and accepting of yourself when you get into the habit of giving yourself some time.

The one thing about getting lost in yourself is adding more value to your own self worth. Spending time with yourself adds worth in all accounts. Time is a precious commodity you rarely give to yourself because of the rat race you might be in.

So yeah, pack an overnight bag and be someplace you have never been. Learn to be with yourself and enjoying that time on your own. Be selfish because it is not entirely a bad thing to be once in a while if it means not losing yourself to the demands of your life.

As you know, trying to get lost and get you found in the end.

Like A Pound of Stardust

        

                    You are made of a pound of stardust, so in the Universe you should trust.

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Visiting a planetarium is a must do in this life time. The Universe can make you marvel about its chaotic beauty and building mess. And in your life, you only get to see the veil of the bigger show behind the curtain calls.

So when you feel down and basically lost or aimless, remember that you were made to be a part of something bigger you could not picture yet. Let this bigger picture come to you with least resistance because logic can never substitute for true understanding. When you understand what you were meant to be or to do, you do not need to be logical to know you have become or you have done.

You are a speck out of this life force, a true manifestation of millions of accidents that led to a miracle that is uniquely you. So when people pull you down or life is getting darker for your happiness to shine,  be the sun. Be the center of your universe. Focus on you. Learn about yourself and strive to become a better not bitter version. Block out the noise that tends to bring doubts and confusion. Listen to you.

Be not wary of neverending changes and problems. Problems were made to bring something new - changes. Changes create better worlds because the lessons they bring are true and lasting. Make it a habit to push your comfort zone and be silly or foolish. Being foolish means you are just way ahead of finding a solution that only you can know to a problem that nobody noticed yet. Be mad, be passionate, be obssessed, be open and be not afraid to become un-you.

And always remember, you are made of at least a pound of stardust. Let your sparkle shine through at your darkest and rarest moments. Be noble to know that what you can manifest on your own, was never truly yours but a mere component of the great mystery we call, life.